{The Ordinary Moments} #14 - Being Me Again

Monday, June 29, 2015

As a mum on maternity leave I spend all of my time with my baby, and I love it! The thought of going back to work fills me with dread, and although I know it's not possible for us I wish I could stay at home with him for longer. I love watching Zach grow each day, learning new things and turning into a little boy right before my eyes. There's something so magical about the time we get to spend together just us, and I feel like it's given us a special bond.

Although I love being a mum, sometimes I need to have a break and this week I had a lot of time to be 'me' again. I went out on Wednesday night for dinner with the girls, and as I walked to the station I thought "isn't it weird that no one knows I'm a mum except me." It was the first time in a while I had gone out without Zach, and it made me realise that being a mum makes up so much of my identity these days.

I want to say "I'm not just a mum", but for some reason that statement makes me sad. It's not that I don't want to be a mum, but the label doesn't account for everything else about me. I love a cheeky gin and tonic, and wearing red lipstick, and staying out late - and to me these things don't fit into the mum category. This weekend I did them all, and I loved it. I felt free. I saw Taylor Swift in Hyde Park, I drank way too much, and I stayed up past midnight. And when it was over? I was ready to step back into my role as Zach's mum, feeling refreshed and read to be dribbled on again.

I think sometimes, just a small break can make all the difference.


"I said pour yourself a drink, put on some lipstick and pull yourself together" - Marylin Monroe


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8 comments

  1. It sounds like it was a wonderful way to spend the weekend - I'm glad you enjoyed it!

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  2. Ah I love this Chantal and I couldn't agree more. I often find it weird when I wander about without the girls that people wouldn't know I was a Mum. It's such a HUGE part of our identity. I hope you had a lovely time with the girls though- I would love to see Taylor Swift! x

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    1. Thank you Katie! It's such a massive part that going out without them seems so strange! I tell everyone I meet that I'm a mum just to make sure they know! xx

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  3. Oh man Chantal what an idyllic week hahaha Im so jeal you got to see Taylor swift haha would love that - was she fab? I love being out childless occasionally and it is always a time of reflection and "who am I" moments ha! I struggle alot with the whole "just being a mum" identity crisis - love this post x

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    1. She was amazing!! It's so hard getting the balance right I think! Thank you Mary!! xx

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  4. This is a great post Chantal, and something I can really relate to. I think we all just need a little break sometimes to recharge our mummy batteries, I often need reminding of this myself.
    I'm SO jealous that you got to see Swifty! xx

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    1. Thank you so much Stacie - having a break is so important I think but getting the balance right can be so hard! She was amazing!!! :) xx

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