Being Unprepared For Toddlerhood

Tuesday, March 08, 2016

When you are pregnant you get so many warnings about the impending doom that is life with a newborn. You're told that you will never sleep again, that you will be so busy you won't be able to shower and that having a baby is seriously hard work. All of these are true to some extent, and whilst you will never know how hard life is with a newborn until you have to look after one 24/7 you do have a vague idea, or at least I did.

What I didn't expect was the challenges I would face with a one year old. People always talk about the 'terrible twos' or having a 'threenager' and so I thought that I was going to be in for an easy ride for about another year. I'm sure the worst is yet to come, but it seemed as though Zach turned overnight from my easy-going baby to a toddler who wants to play with everything including the iron and pans of boiling water.

He's not allowed to play with those for obvious reasons, but you can't exactly explain that. Zach does not understand that they will cause him pain as he has no concept of what that means. So instead we don't let him do what he wants to do, he cries and screams, and we try to distract him with something a little safer or bribe him with food.

At the same time though, he's developing at a rate of knots and he is doing something new every single day. Seeing each new skill cancels out every second of toddler meltdown, but it doesn't mean it's not hard work. I feel like such a fool or thinking that once Zach could communicate what he wanted that life would be so much easier!

So this is me, putting up my hands and saying this toddler thing is hard work and I'm only just at the beginning. I am suddenly feeling far less competent as a parent, and I need to seriously work on my patience. All I can add is: thank goodness for nap time and for gin.


  1. I dont think anything prepares you for toddlers x

  2. It really is hard work especially as they become more able and develop their own little personalities, and you are doing an amazing job! This mama thing ain't an easy ride! x


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