Sticking To Just The One?

Friday, March 11, 2016


Never say never, but, we’re not planning on having any more children. It’s something Jono and I have discussed at length and we’ve realised we’re quite happy to remain a family of three: it just feels right for us.

Sometimes I think like there’s something wrong with me because I just don’t have the desire to have another. I expected that by now I would have an overwhelming feeling of broodiness but it’s just not there. I love Zach, and I love being a mum, and that’s enough for me. I don’t want to be pregnant again, or give birth again or go through the sleepless nights despite how wonderful it is to hold a precious newborn.

Rather than longing to add to our brood the thought of falling pregnant scares me – we’d have to move again, struggle with money again, I’d have to take time out of my career again and we’d have even less time for our lovely boy. It feels like the dust has just settled after the past two years of dealing with an unexpected pregnancy. We’ve found our feet again and I’m not planning to disturb the peace.

As for Zach, well, I’m confident that he will be just fine without a sibling. Whilst part of me knows he would have such fun with a brother or sister, it’s not the be all and end all if he grows up without one. I was an only child myself until the age of fourteen and never found that I felt lonely or that I was missing out. And really, there’s no guarantee that our children would have that close bond with each other should we have another.

We hope instead that we will remain a very close family of three and live our life together filled with happiness, love and adventure. We hope to travel the world and provide our son with as many experiences and opportunities as we can. Maybe three really is a magic number (sorry, not sorry, you’ll almost certainly have that in your head for the rest of the day).

So that’s the plan, at least for now, because as I said, never say never. 

12 comments

  1. I think when you know, you know. We're done at two and the thought of having three sends fear through me. We'd have to move house or the kids would have to share rooms which I didn't want. We'd also have all the extra costs and we'd have to start from scratch with buying all the baby things. I completely get this post, and the three of you work together perfectly x

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    1. I'm not sure if we're just done with having kids or really not ready but for now it terrifies me! Thank you for commenting Donna xx

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  2. I KNOW RIGHT?! People that actually start trying when their first is nine months old or whatever. Astonishing to me.

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    1. I am in awe of those people! I couldn't do it! xx

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  3. I must be a foreign creature to you haha I was pregs with Megan when E was 10months and now on number 4, and I actually, as much as I think of it cannot feel if its the last or not, I really do not know! I am happy with hand me downs and second hand, I love the chaos of family life with siblings and banter. I love that they'll always have each other, I love to see them sneak into each others rooms for sleep overs and chats and it makes me happy to see their bonds. But thats me and I honestly have always felt that having kids is not an expensive affair.
    Isn't it funny how we are all so different x

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    1. Haha no I totally get it and I think it's wonderful to have loads of kids I'm just not sure it's right for me! We will see if that changes with time though! xx

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  4. There's nothing 'wrong' with you - everyone is different! For some it's one, for others it's more (in our case, many more!) and for others yet it's none. None of them are wrong. Whatever is right for your family is just right!

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    1. Thank you, I think I really needed to hear that! xx

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  5. I don't think there is anything wrong with you at all lovely, I think we are all different. I always thought we would have two, in fact I was adamant we would have two, but I just wanted one more when the time came. I know I will probably always be broody but I am 100% sure all being well that three is going to be our limit. There is just no way I would have four! xx

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    1. Thank you Katie! I always thought I'd have two, and now I'm clearly not so sure about that one! It might be something that changes with time and who knows how we will feel in a year or two xx

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  6. I can totally relate to this! On one hand, I'd quite love to hold a lovely new born and do all the baby stuff all over again, but on the other hand I am just happy with the way things are now. And if I'm honest, I think I just miss my daughter being very small more than wanting another baby...if that makes any sense lol!! Great post xxx

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  7. I can totally relate to this! On one hand, I'd quite love to hold a lovely new born and do all the baby stuff all over again, but on the other hand I am just happy with the way things are now. And if I'm honest, I think I just miss my daughter being very small more than wanting another baby...if that makes any sense lol!! Great post xxx

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