{The Ordinary Moments 16} #9 - Starting To Show Affection

Sunday, June 12, 2016

I've mentioned a couple of times now that Zach isn't the most affectionate toddler. He's not a huge fan of cuddles unless he's sleepy, he'll only put his arms up to be held if he thinks he'll get what he wants, and usually he absolutely hates kisses. He's just too busy running around exploring. If we dare to hold him we are stopping him from having his fun, and that's just not okay in his eyes!

Although I am proud of how independent he is I'm not going to pretend that it doesn't bother me. I am a very affectionate person, and I would love nothing more than copious kisses and cuddles from my little boy. I often dream about snuggling up on the sofa together to watch his favourite shows on TV, or him coming into our bed after a nightmare when he's older.

I've spent the past few months worrying about whether we've been doing something wrong. Perhaps our parenting style has caused him to put barriers up between us. I wondered if it was because I didn't breastfeed, because we didn't co sleep, or because he has a comforter. As soon as he sees his fluffy bunny he runs to her, picks her up and holds her to him so tight - if only he did that with us! I found myself being kissed by other people's children more than my own son, and I really took it to heart.

Jono thankfully is a lot more level headed than me and  has always said to just give him time. Sure enough he was right as things have changed a little over the past few weeks. It all began one evening when Zach was in the bath. I was sat on the floor next to him and he climbed up and gave me a kiss. And then he did it again, and again, and again. It was just the best moment, and I honestly can't explain how happy it made me feel.

Since then he has 'kissed' me once almost every day - or rather put his mouth on my lips and gone 'mmmmmm'. I have no idea what has caused this change, and it is just the best feeling in the world. As a mother there is nothing more amazing than your child showing you they love you, and I hope that with time he will show us more and more. He is everything to us, and I hope that we can be everything to him. 


6 comments

  1. Such a lovely post. It's natural for us mothers to hold ourselves responsible even when we are of course not. So great that you are getting this affectionate time with him now though, enjoy every single kiss X

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    1. Thank you :) I think it is so hard not to blame yourself for things as mother, although it is definitely something I am working on! xx

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  2. Awww this is such a lovely post and I am glad you are getting those lovely Mama kisses- there is nothing better! My biggest girl is incredibly affectionate and basically wants to be on you at all times whereas you have to work a lot harder for a cuddle or kiss off my littlest lady. She is getting better as well as she is getting older though. x

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    1. They are just the best thing in the world!! I hope that he becomes a bit more affectionate still as we do have to work for it!! xx

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  3. I was never an affectionate person and used to cringe or even run a mile when my parents tried to hug or kiss me haha so I know its not you, but probably his character. Its lovely he has kisses for his mamma now, and most boys do get more mimmys boys as they grow up... Ethan is rather snuggly with me still at 5 xx

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    1. Haha that makes me feel a little better, thank you Mary!! I do hope Zach will be a mummy's boy! xx

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