Being a Young Mum

Friday, August 05, 2016


When I found out I was pregnant at 22 I knew I was going to have to give up a lot of my own life for the new one I was growing inside me. I had never intended to be a parent so young, but becoming a mother was something I had always wanted and I knew I had to make the sacrifice. I can't say that it was an easy one to make though, and I would be lying if I said I hadn't struggled with my new identity.

I'm now 24 and it's a funny age to be. Some people are still living at home with their parents, some are off working high flying jobs and building their careers, and others are escaping it all by travelling the world. And then here I am, a mum to a cheeky toddler; changing poo filled nappies and dealing with the most ridiculous tantrums.

I find it hard to look at my friends and not be jealous; not about anything they are doing in particular, but simply their ability to live their lives solely for themselves. To be able to pop to the shop to buy something without the whole fiasco of putting Zach's shoes on and getting him strapped into the pushchair before heading out of the door. To spend evenings at the pub, to go out on dates or simply to watch a film at the cinema.

There are so many things that I miss from my pre-baby life. A big part of me really does wish I could have the freedom of my old life back, but yet more of me loves the person I've become. I spend a lot of time moaning about how hard being a parent is, but when you get down to the nitty gritty, I wouldn't change a thing.

Being a mum, and a young mum at that, is super tough, but it is also the most wonderful thing in the world. It is more rewarding that anything I have ever experienced, and I can't imagine there's anything that tops it. Seeing your child learn and develop, right before your very eyes, is a gift that cannot be quantified.

I'm not sure I will ever make peace with the fact that I've 'lost' most of my twenties to being a mother, but I sure as hell wouldn't change it for the world. My son makes me happier than trips to the pub or the cinema could ever make me. He is my life now, and I love him more than I can put into words.


2 comments

  1. I had my first baby at 24 so I totally understand this. I've got my own post on it in the draft stages at the moment. There's definitely lots of perks to being a young mum too - more energy, quicker recovery from sleepless nights, plenty of time to get stuck into a career after kids, kids will ask be grown up by the time you're in your 50s and all your mates will still be busy parenting teenagers! It can be hard when you feel like you're missing out though

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    1. Yes, definitely lots of positives, and in fact I might right those as a follow up post. I think I just needed to get this off my chest at the time of writing it! xx

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